PLUMBING

water heater will be ABOVE washer and dryer, inside to protect it from salty water and spray! 

a close up of the on demand, gas water heater

lovely beveled subway tile set at 1/3 spacing, looks so clean! 

these were the old plumbing pipes: replaced

disgusting old pipes from kitchen sink

Contractors 11/28/16

Today, the Monday after thxgiving I had:

The tile guy: Jessie come work on the floor.   He cut the large tiles to accommodate the penny tile wave.

The Window guys returned to do some trim, but had to call 2 different guys, to get the filler and the correct size trim.  They could not do the bathroom window, because the tile was wet.

They did not finish the windows in the office, because they need a missing piece for the lock.
They did teach me how to correctly close the windows and lock them, and how to add the window screens which are inside the house, not on the outside.

The Va Natural gas man, he checked on the meter, repainted it, and got it set up for plumbers tomorrow.

The chimney guys, said the new roof flashing sucked and I need a cap, but there are no obstructions.
So for $913, including a 15% military discount, they will fix the flashing and cap it w a stainless steel cap.
The mini- wood burning FP is an option, but I will need an insert into the chimney. Will research that and possibly do it at a later time.

Now I need to go to laundromat and to home depot, need more PRIMER KILZ.

Tomorrow PLUMBER!
And jessie (tile guy said he'd be back at 8 am -ish!

laundry area, painted a JADE MIST

still need to pain, under the stairs. This is where murphy bed will go. 

New Windows!!

CUTTING OUT the larger opening, forgot to remove the old bathtub thru the big hole!

the frame hanging out, waiting to be placed.

setting in the bay window.  Took ALL DAY!

more work, heated floor

stylish  and functional grab bar, will install fold down teak seat at a later date

removing window in new closet/laundry area

new bathroom floor, shower in grey

starting the process for the heated bathroom floor

Schlüter system, keeps floor at constant temp. you set via thermostat. 

leveling compound to make floor level, dries in about 4 hours

God can restore what is broken

and turn it into something amazing.  All  I need is faith.

Sunday 530 am

awake.  Can't sleep.   Got up to pee.   When I got back into bed, Gavel had peed in the sheets.   Fuck. Twice since Tuesday.    And I have no washer or dryer.   And it's 530 in the am.  

I read lots of blogs and posts and vet based articles online about aberrant peeing.   I'm still not sure how to fix it.    Gavel is my special needs cat.  It is a cross I have to bear.    He is a great cat sometimes. Like yesterday when I was crying, he sat on my lap, which  is very unusual, and just comforted me.  He's also a good watch cat. He is alert an hears people approach the house and reacts before I hear them.
But then twice this week, since I had to move him upstairs, he's peed on the bed.   I have become more wise and I have double waterproof pads on the mattress.
But normally I have a washer and dryer too.    Well I was planning on doing laundry at moms today anyway.


He has also peed on 2 very  expensive relax the back zero gravity chairs.  I have used a combination of vinegar,  baking soda, and soap to get the smell out,  but it doesn't work.    I can buy replacement leather for the chairs.   But the style of the chairs is  modern.  They would've looked great in the new house.   But now they're just taking up space in the garage.  NO NEW HOUSE.

Gavel is now on the porch alone.  SORTA LIKE JON IS ALONE.  although I doubt that.   I'm sure he is seeking solace and an easy fuck on any and every trip he goes on.   How lucky for him that I arranged a vasectomy six years ago for him.  

Meanwhile, I have sheets wet with Cat pee.

Jon did not like the fact that I adopted Gavel or Cooper,   I admit 5 cats is too much, they are  a lot of work.   But I also  couldn't let them be.   I actually found the owners for Gavel.    But after the third time, I stopped calling them and got him neutered myself.  Then I tried-- pretty hard--- to find a him a new home.   But that didn't work.   Then, his family of origin, was arrested in a drug sting.    Evidently the DEA had been investigating this guy for five years.  So we had this big drug lord living in our neighborhood in Texas.  So that is how I got Gavel.  

I name  him Gavel for several reasons.   The first was because his family didn't take care of him despite the fact I found him and returned him to them three times.   They had not even had him neutered.    But also Jon was in Iraq,  and was working with an Iraqi who was a lawyer.    Jon respected this man and this man was scheduled to become a judge.   So Jon asked me to find a gavel and have it engraved with this man's name on it. So I did.   And I  sent it to him to jon to give as a gift.  

That was 2010.   Just last year or maybe earlier this year Jon told me that this "judge" was able to come to the US with his family via asylum.

Cooper came to me in August after Fallon died in April.  I tried to ignore him but he came back.   I took him to the vet.   He was neutered but had FIV.    THE SHITTY vet said let him be.   (Outside)
But  FIV is contagious via cat bites.  So the idea is to contain it.  I never went back to that vet.   Cooper is a wonderful gentle sweet cat.


I'm getting a massage at 9 am. What to do for 2 hours?  Finish my now cold coffee.  Watch sunrise....not till 727 am.


So glad I had 4 days in a row off.   Work with all this shit was killing me.


I have a cavity.  I don't know why.   I'm a good flosser , I only have one cup of  coffee a day and then water.   Julie's says it was from previous years abuse. And carries are indolent and grow slowly.   Julie is my dentist.  We were in the navy and coast guard together.   We were both railroaded out of the military by Asshole threatened senior male officers.   Both of us were commanders (ltcol). And left at 15 yrs of service because it was so hellish.    


Anyway. I need to be writing this in my book.  Not a blog.  

Saturday, not a great day

It was perfect weather, started cold 46 this AM, but warmed up nicely to high 70's maybe 81 degrees, sunny, no humidity.

Nothing going on at the beach house.

I had to get up for a haircut at 930.   I was gonna cut it all off and doing something radical, but I decided against it at the last minute.

I finally told my stylist about my ending marriage. She was upset I had not told her earlier.  But she was VERY brand new engaged and they just bought a house together.  I could NOT tell her before. That would have taken the shine off her new engagement.

But I did so and I did not shed a tear, almost, but I held it together.  Oddly, her next client was also a female physician and overheard me telling her my sad pitiful story...this next client, introduced her self as another physician and told me her husband cheated on her during residency, too.

WTF?    Is this a curse of professional woman, like the OSCAR curse, win an Oscar for best female acting and you have your marriage end?

I have no toilet or shower, gross as it sounds, I pee in a throw away container and pour it down the sink, I  go the the marina or Starbucks, too.  I have water, but no hot water.  (Yet)

I shower at mom's house, do laundry there too.  (thanks Mom)

I went and shopped for a bathroom faucet, because the plumber poo-pooed (no pun intended)  the one I had bought from HOUZZ, told me to get Delta or Brizo the high end version of Delta.

I liked this one at Lowe's by GROHE, so I got that.
I sent the other back to HOUZZ.

Then, something about "pick this stuff out", just really got to me and I almost had an anxiety attack. Maybe more like a panic attack.  I just felt that NOTHING would ever be the same again. That I would never have anyone to love or be intimate with or help me pick out stupid faucets.

I missed my husband so much, I just had to go home and cry and cry and cry.
In fact, I can't believe I can actually make urine with the volume of fluids lost in tears.

Jennifer, my buddy from UHC is also in a divorce process, too, she was married to an anesthesiologist. She's probably 6-9 months ahead of me in the process.  She has 3 kids though.  She is 41 and is lovely, has wonderfully blond, curly, beachy, hair.  Makes sense, she does live in California.  She is a PA. He is making her life HELL.

He cheated on her w the mother of one of her kids classmates.   But different from me, he wants her back, his family still talks to her.  But I guess that's the kids.

She can't stand him (ex to be), but misses being in a marriage. She is going on dates, too, but we both know that we are not healthy enough to date...but it's just something we have to do.

She called and was having a "bad" day too.  

I took a nap after crying so much.  I had already agreed to a b-day party with the neighbors, so I had to get up and go. I'm glad I did.

These folks are kind, Bill had turned 65 and his wife threw him a surprise party, as it turns out, his boat is on the same dock as ours.
He  works in Richmond during the week. They too are on their 2nd marriage.

Anyway, I met a new couple friend.

I drank water. I'm glad I had no alcohol.

Then I get a shitty email from Jon, telling me the Texas house lease will be notarized and should get a copy soon.  (that part was good, )    But he had read this BLOG and liked the pix, but felt the content was inappropriate for a public forum....FUCK HIM.

So I made it private.  He no longer has access.  So if you are reading this, you are considered, my trusted few.
My pal from TX sent me a book --it is religious based, but so far it's awesome, I'm on chapter 4 (thanks Val)  it's basically stories from the Bible of how people deal with issues like mine, but then the Bible stories are translated w modern spins--so sorta Bible for dummies.

I'm gonna go read that and a short book called HEAL Thyself by Bach ( recommended by my life coach)

I could have retorted back to Jon with FUCK you, but I did not.  I simply chose to ignore his remarks, not respond to his email and now my blog is private.

That is what my life coach has taught me: responding in a higher level, not animal behaviors (fuck you)  but human behaviors: no response, make blog private.

There is this guy I met on match.com. He's a widower x 9 yrs, but something is off about him. So I'm not gonna keep texting w him.  He looks good on paper, and looked attractive in photos, but I don't want to be anyone's intsant Mom.   Plus he does't have a smart phone and that already makes me suspicious, told me to buy him one--that screams scam.

So bye-bye Joseph.  Also Bye-bye to Gregg, the United pilot, Tom the detective/cop in Richmond.

But I do have a 2nd date w Brian the attorney in richmond.  Sometime in November when I go up again for work, he also mentioned about meeting in Wmsburg for an early dinner.  Maybe, he was cute and smart, shorter than I would have preferred, but taller than me.  Hh also has a home build in the early 50's, so we have that in common.  He has 2 kids in college both at VCU.

So much for this being a blog about a renovation, it's now become a blog about me. Maybe some renovation.

Thx for reading it.  I suppose its just my online journal.